So this week I went to the doctor for something entirely different and routine, and I just mentioned that I have had some neck and shoulder pain, along with some numbness in my left hand.
Cut to...I now have to wear a brace on my left hand for three weeks and it might be carpal tunnel.
Yeesh. Every time I turn around it’s something. Growing older ain’t for sissies, y’all.
On a happier note, I had lunch was some sassy ladies Friday. They are sweet Southern women who are intelligent and not afraid to speak their minds. They kept telling me to talk more, but I was content to simply sit back and bask in their conversation. They were mesmerizing.
Also, the chicken salad at Three Graces is to die for. Yummo!
What do growing older and my lunch companions have in common? Thanks for asking...
These ladies are all older than me, and have gained much wisdom in their lives. They have served their communities, and have learned and grown, and are passing that wisdom on to me. Heck, I felt wiser just having a cup of coffee with them. And it’s a privilege to get to know them.
As I sat there I thought, what will I be like in another decade or two? Will I be willing to sit down and have lunch with someone younger than me and pass down what I’ve learned? And what would I pass down?
Well...I’ve given some thought to this. I know that my “wisdom” will shift and grow over the coming years, but here’s what I’ve got so far...
• Lose the image of June Cleaver. There’s not a woman on the face of this planet who’s like that anymore. Be your own woman, not an imitation of someone else’s version.
• Know where you come from to appreciate where you’re going. You were not randomly dropped onto the planet, and there is a reason you are, well, you. You are unique and have much to give to others. Embrace it.
• Don’t think you have to wear a mini skirt or cleavage-bearing top to get attention. Leave something to the imagination, and act like a lady.
• Never doubt the beauty that is inside of you. You are not just what you appear to be on the outside.
• Do what makes you happy. If you can get paid for it, well, that’s sprinkles on the cupcake of life.
• Laugh. Long and hard. And at yourself whenever appropriate.
• Finish what you start, and don’t start anything unless you can finish it.
• Don’t sit around wishing your life away. “I wish I could lose 10 pounds...I wish I could get a better job...I wish I had a better boyfriend/husband...” Whatever. Recognize the beauty and possibilities in every stage of your life and roll with it.
• Know your limitations. You are not, despite what you may think, Superwoman. There is no shame in asking for help – it’s not a sign of weakness.
• Learn to speak properly. It’s not that complicated, and you will appear intelligent and educated. Even if you don’t always feel you are.
• Surround yourself with good people. There are people in this world who spew venom, just because they can. They seem to live for the moments when they can hose the rest of us down. Push those folks aside, and spend your time with people who will be honest with you, give you insight, be positive and respect you.
• Stand up for what you believe in. It has been said that if you don’t stand for anything, you’ll fall for everything. ‘Nuff said.
• Read. Read. Read. A good book can take you places you’d never have a chance to go, allow you to feel things you might never otherwise experience, and will introduce you to all sorts of interesting characters. Read everything you can get your hands on.
• There is wisdom in Winnie the Pooh. My favorite? “Promise me you’ll always remember you’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” Christopher Robin said that to Pooh.
If I pass on just a small fraction of these things to women younger than me, and whatever else I’ve gleaned along the way, I will feel like I’ve done something with my life.
Oh...parting tidbit...I read today that I should be like a pencil, and mark things only with what’s inside of me. There’s much wisdom in that. Think I’ll add that to my lists – the one of things I’ll be handing down, and the one of things I aspire to.
Reach Angye Morrison at email@example.com.